When you see a flower what do you instinctively do? Pluck it? Take a picture? Or maybe just admire it and go your way.
If you pluck it to have a piece, it eventually dies. Trying to own it doesn't help it but instead kills it.
If you take a picture, you're leaving it as it is but keeping a memory of it digitally.
If you admire it and go your way, you're leaving a core memory, one you may forget or drift over time or maybe just maybe it will stick for a lifetime, maybe 3.
How does this explain human relations? When you see someone or something you like do you want to own it despite knowing it will die because of you? Do you take the person or thing out of their natural habitat and then complain when they can't survive being uprooted?
Or maybe you would like to spend time with this person to have something more to remember?
Do you prefer having a core memory of this person and calling a day.
When human emotions are simplified to everyday actions, we begin to imagine the decadence in which we've placed ourselves when it comes to morality.
On several occasions or maybe just once, we may have met even "friends" who wanted us to be only for them and tried to control who we spoke to or maybe we were even them.
I find it quite enlightening that seeing yourself in the other person's shoe or in their place makes you understand more, especially when context and other variables are also in awareness.
Which such vivid awareness in place, what do think is the most logical thing to do? Take a step back, not everything needs to be owned, controlled or bought.
Just because something or someone is beautiful and you greatly admire, doesn't mean it/him/her should be with you.
Why do you think all good things in the world should only belong to you? Is it because of your power? Money? Looks? Ego? How would you feel to be an object of someone's desire, haunted and thorn by a so called "adoration" which the so called "adorer" feels you must endure for their deep "longing" for you?
It's quite satirical, isn't it? Driving someone to the edge to prove your affection when you can simply prove it by walking away.
These feelings of yours may deem overly righteous for you but incredibly suffocating to the other.
So I hope today, and always, may we put empathy and compassion into all we do and all we think about. Knowing we need not suppress or control to be happy.
Have a good day,
Nabila Abubakar (Queen Beela)
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